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I am sometimes disturbed by some of the hobbies and interests of my partner.
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My partner does not seem to have enough hobbies or interests.
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My partner enjoys spending his/her free time with me because we share many of the same interests or hobbies.
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We sometimes disagree about which T.V. programs to watch or how much time we should spend watching T.V.
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We enjoy few of the same leisure activities.
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My partner understands and supports my need to be alone or to spend time with my friends.
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My partner finds the time for us to do things together.
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I am concerned that we don't spend enough time together.
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I am happy with the way we each use our free time.
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We enjoyed ourselves more in the past than we do now.
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We have not yet discussed or agreed on how we will make important financial decisions.
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We have discussed and agreed on a realistic monthly budget.
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We have decided on our specific responsibilities regarding how our money will be spent and where it will come from.
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My partner is aware of the importance of good financial record-keeping.
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We have difficulties deciding what our financial priorities are as a couple.
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We often do not agree on how to spend our money.
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We often do not agree on how we will make important financial decisions.
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We have decided on our specific responsibilities regarding how our money is spent and where it comes from.
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We agree on how we will use credit as a couple (loans, credit cards, installment buying, and etc.)
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My partner is aware of all of my major debts.
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Either I or my partner has debts which cause me concern.
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I am concerned that financial obligations from my partner's previous relationship(s) may cause problems between us.
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We agree on how to handle all of our checking and savings accounts (individual and/or joint) and any other assets or debts we have.
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We agree on how to use credit as a couple (loans, credit cards, installment buying, and etc.)
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We would have less problems as a couple if my partner made more money.
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I am sometimes upset that I must get my partner's approval to spend money.
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My partner spends money wisely.
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I worry that we may be short of money.
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I trust my partner with our money.
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My partner worries too much about money matters.
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I share and support most of the goals and ambitions of my partner.
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We have discussed and agree on all of our deepest dreams, hopes and ambitions for the future.
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I usually attain the goals I set for myself.
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We agree that savings are important and will be able to save an adequate amount of money.
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We agree on long-term plans regarding where we will live and what type of housing we will be able to afford.
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My partner usually attains the goals he/she sets for him/herself.
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We are in agreement about how to plan for our future financial security.
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We agree that savings are important and we save an adequate amount of money.
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Running the household should be a woman's primary responsibility, even if she is also working outside the home.
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We have discussed and agree completely on who should do what around the house.
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If both of us are working then we should equally share household responsibilities.
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Men should help out with household chores.
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I would feel uncomfortable if my partner made more money than me.
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I am somewhat concerned about the career plans of my partner.
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Being a mother is a full-time job.
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We have discussed and agree on how child-rearing will affect our career plans.
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In our relationship, the female partner is encouraged to pursue any career goals.
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Raising children and running the household should be a woman's primary concern.
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A man's main duty to his family is to provide the family income.
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A woman with young children should not spend time at a job outside the home.
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In a family, a woman should not work unless it is absolutely necessary.
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In the case of an important disagreement, the man should make the final decision.
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We should make joint decisions on all important issues.
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My partner has too many friends of the opposite sex.
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I enjoy spending time with my partner's friends.
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My partner's friends tend to be somewhat cynical.
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All of our friends are very supportive of our relationship.
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My partner spends too much time with his/her friends.
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I am not concerned that my partner has his/her own friends.
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My partner gets along well with all of my friends.
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We have few friends in common.
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All of our friends are very supportive of our plans to marry.
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I am concerned that when we have children our families may try to interfere with our child-raising decisions.
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I would feel uncomfortable accepting financial assistance from my family or from my partner's.
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I worry that our families may come between us.
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My partner feels comfortable around my family.
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I feel comfortable around my partner's family.
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We spend too much time with my partner's family.
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Our families approve of our the way we live.
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My partner's family approves of me.
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My partner spends too much time with his/her family.
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My partner seems to have a satisfactory relationship with his/her family.
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My family approves of my partner.
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I think my partner is too dependant on his/her family.
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Our family backgrounds are very different, and this a cause of some concern for me.
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Our children seem to show too little concern for us.
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I am not sure that my partner feels the same way I do about having children.
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We agree that we will never have any children, including adopted children.
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My partner freely expresses affection for our children.
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We have little in common with our children.
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I am somewhat concerned that our children may suffer because of my partner's commitments to children from a prior relationship.
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Our children seem generally well-behaved compared to other children.
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I am worried by the idea of having children.
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I enjoy spending time talking to my children about their joys and concerns.
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We agree on the number of children we would like to have or already have.
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My partner will make a good parent.
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We agree on the number of children we would like to have.
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Having children will put a strain on our relationship.
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My partner spoils our children.
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Both of us agree on how our children should be disciplined.
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My partner will sometimes give in to our children even if I have already said "no".
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My partner does not spend enough time with our children.
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Having children has interfered with my plans for the future.
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My partner spends too much time and energy on our children.
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Our children know how to take advantage of our disagreements.
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Many of our arguments are caused by our children.
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Our children seem to be a constant source of problems between us.
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Having children has put a strain on our relationship.
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I am satisified with the way that we have divided up the responsibilities of child-rearing.
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We have discussed and agree on the roles of father and mother in raising children.
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Having children will completely change our lifestyle.
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My partner is a good parent.
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Having children has brought us closer together.
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My partner does not always pay enough attention to their appearance.
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My partner is too orderly for my tastes.
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My partner is sometimes too stubborn or rigid.
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It sometimes seems like my partner needs to be in control of most situations.
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My partner deals well with failure and disappointment.
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My partner is too interested in social status and material possesions.
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I am confident in my own abilities and in those of my partner.
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My partner finds it very difficult to let go of past relationships.
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My partner often has a negative, cynical outlook on life.
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I am sometimes bothered by my partner's prejudices.
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Sometimes I am bothered by how my partner acts when we are around other people.
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My partner sometimes makes jokes which put me down.
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It worries me that my partner has had one or more unsuccesful relationships in the past.
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It bothers me that my partner is often depressed or unhappy.
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I find it hard to enjoy myself without my partner.
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My partner is too jealous sometimes.
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My partner has a sense of humour which sometimes bothers me.
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I worry about my partner's physical or mental health.
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Sometimes I am afraid that my partner will hurt me.
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My partner has a problem with drinking or drugs.
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I am worried about my partner's temper.
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I am very satisified with our frequency of sexual intercourse.
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I sometimes worry that my partner does not enjoy sex as much as I do.
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My partner does not seem as interested in sex as I am.
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My partner sometimes seems too interested in sex.
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We rarely have sexual intercourse.
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We are in complete agreement as to which birth control and family planning methods to use.
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Men should initiate sex.
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My partner should initiate sex more often.
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I have some fantasies and desires that I have not shared with my partner.
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I am completely satisfied with the level of affection and intimacy in our relationship.
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I am happy with the way we express physical intimacy and affection in our relationship.
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I sometimes worry that my partner expresses affection mainly in a sexual way.
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I feel comfortable discussing sexual matters with my partner.
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I would be open to any sexual experimentation my partner suggests.
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I enjoy having my partner see me in the nude.
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I sometimes worry about my own sexual urges or behaviours or about my partner's.
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My partner is everything that I have ever dreamed of.
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My partner never gets angry with me.
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We understand each other perfectly.
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I never get angry with my partner.
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There are several things about my partner which bother me.
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No one could ever be as perfect a match for me as my partner.
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My partner is always 100% honest with me.
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My partner never does anything which makes me unhappy.
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Our relationship is happier than any other one I can think of.
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There is room for improvement in our relationship.
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Our relationship is a complete and total success.
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No couple is happier than we are.
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We never have any real problems as a couple.
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I expect that with time I will be able to change some of the annoying behaviours of my partner.
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If we really love one another we will experience little or no friction in our relationship.
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We have discussed what might cause us to end our relationship.
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The love I feel now for my partner will never change.
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I feel that we both are open to change in our relationship.
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I am not really happy unless I am in a relationship.
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Having children will keep us together.
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Marriage will solve many of the problems in our relationship.
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I can never be truly happy until I am married.
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I could never remain in our relationship if my partner were ever unfaithful to me.
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We agree on the meaning of fidelity and trust in our relationship.
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I could probably have a succesful relationship with many people other than my partner.
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My partner is able to give me constructive criticism without hurting my feelings.
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My partner is able to accept criticism without feeling like I am attacking him/her.
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Sex is one way we resolve problems in our relationship.
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When we have an argument one of us usually ends up with hurt feelings.
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If I have a serious confrontation with my partner I will usually give in to keep the peace.
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To avoid trouble, I usually keep things to myself.
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My partner is able to express anger in a constructive and honest way.
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It bothers me that my partner sometimes gives me the silent treatment when we have a problem.
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If something in our relationship is bothering me I can always talk to my partner about it.
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My partner understands and respects my point of view, even when he/she does not agree with it.
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We seem to have serious arguments over unimportant matters.
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There are some issues that my partner refuses to discuss.
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When we have a disagreement we often end up arguing and saying things we don't really mean.
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We usually agree on the best way to solve our problems.
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When we have an argument I can usually understand my partner's point of view.
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We are able to talk our problems out and find a way to meet each other halfway when we disagree.
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Some of our problems never seem to be resolved.
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Sometimes I feel like my partner does not take our problems seriously.
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We often seem to argue about the same things over and over again.
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One of us usually insists on being right when we have an argument.
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We argue more than we should.
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Most of the problems in our relationship are my partner's fault.
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Most of the problems in our relationship are my fault.
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I find it difficult to apologize to my partner even when I know I am wrong.
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It is difficult for my partner to apologize, even when they know they are wrong.
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Sometimes my partner is too frank with me.
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I think I would be able to tell my partner if I were ever unfaithful to them.
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Sometimes I do not share negative feelings with my partner because I do not want to hurt him/her.
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My partner is in touch with his/her feelings and shares them openly with me.
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I am able to tell my partner anything that's on my mind.
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I sometimes find it difficult to express my true feelings to my partner.
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I sometimes feel like my partner does not understand me.
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At times I feel uncomfortable about asking my partner for what I really want.
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We are always able to talk things over.
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It is easy for me to tell my partner how I truly feel.
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I sometimes feel that my partner is hiding their true feelings from me.
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I can usually tell how my partner is feeling without them saying anything.
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My partner is a good listener.
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Often it seems that my partner does not understand how I feel.
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I wish my partner would tell me how they really feel more often.
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I am satisfied with the ways we communicate with each other.
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I am confident that my partner knows what to tell our friends and relatives about our relationship and what is "between us".
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There are some things I can't tell anyone about, not even my partner.
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I am worried that we are rushing our marriage.
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I sometimes have doubts about my or my partner's level of commitment to our relationship.
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I'm not sure that my partner's commitment is strong enough to last a lifetime.
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I am sure that our decision to marry is the right one.
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If my partner is unable to have children, I might consider ending our relationship.
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We agree on when we will marry.
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I sometimes feel like my partner made the wrong choice when he/she picked me.
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We agree on the values and beliefs we would like to teach our children.
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We have discussed and agreed on what religious practices we will engage in as a family.
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I am comfortable with the religious and philosophical beliefs of my partner.
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In general, we have the same point of view about religious and spiritual matters.